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Wickedly good, ferocious piece.

I want nuff girls and women to see this. Little girls should be taught to fight and bite anyone who touches them in ways that are wrong. Too many children are being hurt these days.

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Tanks gyal!

I teach all the kiddies how to respectfully decline anyone they don’t feel comfortable having touch them. Family or not, Children should feel safe and in control of their bodies to develop healthy EGOs and self-confidence.

I’ve talked to so many people who felt the same as a child and were forced to people please with their bodies to appease their parent’s generational schuppedness.

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Words cannot accurately convey to you how powerfully this raw and honest piece of your truth affected me today. From one victor to another, I see your pain. ❤️

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Appreciate you for joining me in this freeing exercise. We are not our traumas but we most definitely weren’t meant to stay silent about them.

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I know that's right.

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Thank you for taking us on a ride from pain to liberation. Tears in my eyes while typing this. Your writing feels so down to earth I can’t even explain how held I feel reading your words. Thank you so much 🙏🏾

I have a 1.5 year old daughter, and every time someone looks like they want to touch her, I see them double back before I have to say anything. Energy speaks, but I’ve been ready to stand my ground for her at any moment ⚔️ She doesn’t even smile at anyone she doesn’t know (despite how hard people passing by try to get her to), and it feels healing for me seeing her already move like this.

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Thank you for reading and receiving my message. In these wicked times, your daughter is blessed to have a mother like you who encourages her to listen to her gift from God: her intuition.

Pedophiles aren’t born, they’re systemically made by victims who never got their protection as a child and certainly never got healed from demonic energies.

We gotta stay truthful and vigilant to protect our children.

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This piece moved me to tears. I am so sorry you had to endure that as a young child. It is so SICKENING that for many children, curiosity becomes abuse through unsolicited touch. I'm so glad you've reclaimed yourself, your body! It took me a long while to get to that space as well. As a child sexual abuse survivor and as a mother now, protecting my seed and standing up for him at all costs is my biggest job. I'm a non-confrontational person, but since having my son I will make it known to people when their touch is inappropriate. Like random strangers coming up and touching his head full of curls, no thank you. Or family members kissing him on the lips, hell no. He's made me a lot stronger. In speaking up for him, I've also gained more power to speak up for myself and for others.

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🥹🥹 I’m glad you were able to transmute your pain as well and be a strong protector for your son! Girl, I didn’t even include the time the Pastor slid his hand down my back tryna git in my crack WHILE he was baptizing me! 😂😩. We’ve got to be vigilant for our next generation so we can break the soul crushing curses passed down to us.

Thank for reading and feeling with me.🫶🏼

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Necessary conversations that need to be had. It has always been weird to me when grown folk feel a sense of entitlement to a child’s body and react with intense emotions of rejection. Teaching children to say no and standing firm and also asking permission to give them hugs or kisses (if i actually know them) is paramount to learning about consent. Thank you for sharing but hate that you experienced but grateful you transcended and reclaimed your VOICE and POWER! 🙌🏽♥️

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Preach Sista Saje. We gotta question the customs, where they come from, and who they actually benefit.

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I for one would love to end the hug as a greating.

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So unnecessary 😂

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Whew, I hate you had to experience all that you did from a young age but I am proud of you for establishing and holding true to your boundaries as a result. Always enjoy your real writing!!

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🥹🫶🏼 Gyal your writing had reminded me that writing about the pain makes it not in vain. We free each other with our stories by feeling SEEN. Thank you for reading and all that you do. 🥰

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Yessss!!! Exactly this.

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What a raw and honest piece Tabitha. This sentence in particular "I started crying silently so I wouldn’t call attention and get in trouble." was heartbreaking, the guilt we carry around for other people's sins.

Glad you are better.

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Thanks Ana. That scene is definitely haunting. Thankfully through healing I am able to recount it without reliving the raw feeling again.

That guilt tho? Oooo it was heavier than a tonne of bricks in cèdent dip.

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After all that, the last line was really unexpected!

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😂😂😂 I appreciate touch when I invite it in.

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This is powerful and so poignantly honest. Sending a virtual consensual hug, and solidarity. I'm so proud of how little Tab kept on, go through, all the way to the healing.

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I receive that hug wholeheartedly and dare I stay for a virtual snuggle? Teehee. Thank you for coming along for the journey. Lil Tab is one of the fiercest warriors I know. I’m tryna be her again when I finish growing up 😬🥹🥰

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Awesome awesome awesome! Your story is so beautiful and inspiring. You’re a strong person and what attracted me to you was how you talked about alcohol on your headline and I’m thinking wait, this beautiful woman holding liquor , wait let me read her story.. but wow is all I can say

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🫂

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