Share this postTO SELF-SERVE AND PROTECTtabithablair.substack.comCopy linkFacebookEmailNoteOtherRudegal Tab EssaysTO SELF-SERVE AND PROTECTWho is guarding and guiding the line to your BOUNDARIESTabitha BlairApr 01, 202412Share this postTO SELF-SERVE AND PROTECTtabithablair.substack.comCopy linkFacebookEmailNoteOther8ShareA lotta us aint raised to express and protect our PERSONAL BOUNDARIES.We were taught to disregard n discard em.Mute n dilute em.Neglect n disrespect em.We were made to silence da GUARD of our HEARTS and all our other parts to APPEASE n keep da PEACE.While inwardly a BATTLE would develop into an all-out WAR.A war that most hope we will fight internally ETERNALLY.Paradoxically we are told to love others as we love ourselves but most of us hate ourselves.We hate our bodies, our unique thoughts, emotional vulnerabilities.SHIIIIIIIIID even our own GIFTS n ABILITIES.Da whole world wants PEACE n LOVE n all dat jazz towards our fellow beings but HELL forbid you to achieve that for yuhself.That would require you to have BOUNDARIES dat others have to RESPECT.BOUNDARIES dat most likely nuh benefit others OR ALLOW em use you as they see fit.But I say FUCK EM – you dont need dat shit.It nuh right to wait till we are halfway thru life and rife with spiritual plight to finally realize:WE DONT NEED YOUR LOVE – WE NEED YOU TO RESPECT OUR BOUNDARIES.Dats THE highest form of love anyway.For ourselves and others.But we cant ask others to RESPECT what we nah PROTECT.We gotta be ready to check and correct whatever nuh sit right in our SHONDOS.Our shondos be dat Spiritual Essence of our INTUITION.Our boundaries aint UNIVERSAL or UNIFORM.They are uniquely built into our personal manual.Just like our PURPOSE.We all got specific GUIDELINES to help us stay protected n aligned.Finding out where we draw the line in da sand starts when we INNERSTAND these thangs:How do I need to be spoken to?How do I need to be treated?What is my best environment to learn and grow?What do I need to be taken care of?What do I need for my spiritual and physical health?What make me come ALIVE and what makes me die inside?Answer dem questions TRUTHFULLY.Find out we aint been honoring our own BOUNDARIES our gottdamn selves.Find out we been big mad at other people for mistreating us even when we try fi beg em STOP.Why would they when we stay instead of walking away.Someone with healthy boundaries will WALK no matter da COST or perceived LOSS.Da LOSS is never yours when you stay SOLID n CONSISTENT with your BOUNDARIES.It becomes CLEAR who and what is right in your life.Others are just testing our borders to see how far they can take over.SELF LOVE is having walls and discerning who we INVITE in.It nuh make you an ASSHOLE to say NO.You aint being a BITCH to REJECT what you nuh ask for and DEMAND what you were PROMISED.Only users and abusers will try to manipulate you to believe that.Groom us to be PEOPLE PLEASERS with no GUIDELINES n BOUNDARIES.I pray you all get released from dat HELL and get back to da heavenly PEACE of PROTECTING YOURSELF.Amen.SubscribeShare
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